Yes bed.

No bed.

Yes bed.

No bed.

And so begins the wind down ritual most nights.

“Open your mouth,” I say. “Let me see if there is a big yawn inside.”

Sam opens wide. A yawn big enough to engulf the entire room emerges.

“Wow. That is a really big yawn,” I observe. “You must be very tired.”

That response signals the start of another word volley with a quick, staccato rhythm:

No bed.

Yes bed.

No bed.

Yes bed.

Tomorrow bed.

Tonight bed. 

Tomorrow bed!

I take a different approach. “Look outside. What do you see?”  

Sam responds, “Nighttime.”

Smiling I ask, “And what do you do when it is nighttime?”

“Sleep” he responds, yawning again. His yawns are contagious. I yawn, too. Sam smiles up at me observing, “Mommy is very tired.”

“Yes,” I acknowledge.

“Turn off the laptop, please,” I direct.

Within a moment or three or four, he complies.

“Thank you!” I compliment lavishly. “You are such a good listener! I will put it on your bureau for you tomorrow.”

I feel his eyes watch as I tuck the laptop up high on his bureau.

“Shall I stay or go?” I ask.

Firmly he says, "Go."

Once upon a time the answer would have been “stay” but like most teens, he pulls away. Because I have lingered a moment, he punctuates with second "Go." I leave, briefly saddened at the banishment but happy at the appropriateness.

The house grows quiet.

Later I wake, confused from sleep, sensing someone at my side. I squint up at Sam as he begins to pull my hand.

“Laptop?” he asks.

I glance over at the clock. 3:17 AM. “No,” I respond, “it is still nighttime. Go back to bed.”

Many nights he returns to his room and falls back to sleep. Tonight sleep eludes. I hear the TV softly in his room. Sam returns at 3:28 and then again at 3:42.

“Laptop?” he asks hopefully each time.

But it isn’t the laptop he wants. He lacks the words to express the trouble. Is it heartburn? A bad dream? Does he even dream? He has never been able to tell me.

I give him two Tums hoping it will help. He looks at me imploringly.

“Do you want me to come with you?” I ask.

“Yes. Yes, come.” He suddenly looks so very young despite the football player build of his 6’1” frame.

Sam lays his head on my shoulder as I sit on his bed. I hold him tightly.

“Squeeze him,” he demands, “squeeze him tight.”

I wrap my arms around him more tightly. It calms him. I feel his body relax.

Have the Tums kicked in or is it simply the calming touch of another person? I don’t know.

“Roll over,” he abruptly announces, the signal for me to release my grip. I wait as his breathing slows into a sleep rhythm, carefully pulling the comforter up. I admire the innocence of his sleep before slipping quietly back to my room.

Hoping to sleep I glimpse the very beginnings of dawn out my window.  I put my head down. All too quickly the alarm rings, signaling the beginning of another day.